Comparison is the Thin Edge of the Wedge

The ego is always aware of the threat to its existence, that threat being God, or more specifically, the mind’s decision to remember God and to choose Him. So if I go to God with what I’m feeling – my low self-worth, feeling unloved, unwanted, not accepted or appreciated, feeling sick or in pain, afraid of financial loss, or whatever – the ego is going to fight back. Even if we’re feeling a sense of depression or despair, the ego will try to retaliate and attack. We’ll find ourselves critical and condemning. We’ll compare ourselves to others, and remember that to the ego “different” and “separate” are the same. Comparison is the thin edge of the wedge that the ego uses to insinuate itself into our thinking and lead us to attack our brother with the machete of judgment, anger, and hatred. We’ll think thoughts like these: “Well, would you just look at what she’s wearing,” or “I’m better than her. I know about computers,” or “I’m a better parent. At least my kids don’t yell and scream in public.” It’s always: “I’m a better this or that. I’m superior.” Or we can feel righteously superior because we suffer more. Either way, we’re superior. That’s the ego’s line, its theme song. It is grandiosity and it keeps us away from knowing the truth of who we are.

Remember always that you cannot be anywhere except in the Mind of God.

Yet, in the midst of all this, we need to remember that the ego has no reality. It’s only our belief in it that makes it seem real to us. But Jesus is meeting us where we think we are. He continues: “The ego is immobilized in the presence of God’s grandeur, because His grandeur establishes your freedom. Even the faintest hint of your reality literally drives the ego from your mind, because you will give up all investment in it. Grandeur is totally without illusions, and because it is real it is compellingly convincing. Yet the conviction of reality will not remain with you unless you do not allow the ego to attack it. The ego will make every effort to recover and mobilize its energies against your release. It will tell you that you are insane, and argue that grandeur cannot be a real part of you because of the littleness in which it believes” (T-9.VIII.4:1-6).

We’ve all experienced this. The ego attacks our conviction of our reality by trying to convince us that we are arrogant to believe that we are the Son of God, always and forever loved by God. It whispers to us: “Just look at what you’ve done. You’ve separated from God. You’ve destroyed the Oneness of Heaven just so you could have your separate, individual existence. After that, how could God love you?” And the ego will use the Course. Oh yes, don’t doubt that for a moment. The ego will take the Course words and terminology and what we’ve learned and use them against us to make us feel guilty. Because the ego’s intent is to keep us away from God, it’s going to mount every offensive it can to make that happen. It will try to undermine with stories from our past. Maybe you grew up in a dysfunctional family. Maybe you were abused. Maybe you’ve had multiple marriages. Rev. Paul is my fourth husband. The ego likes to use that against me. How could I ever think I could be a Teacher of God? Look at all the mistakes I’ve made! How can I accept that God loves me? But I can. We all can because it’s the Truth. We are His beloved Son, forever at One with Him.

Jesus says: “Yet your grandeur is not delusional because you did not make it. You made grandiosity and are afraid of it because it is a form of attack, but your grandeur is of God, Who created it out of His Love” (T-9.VIII.4:7-8). So yes, we are eligible for the grandeur of God because God created us like Himself. “From your grandeur you can only bless, because your grandeur is your abundance. By blessing you hold it in your mind, protecting it from illusions and keeping yourself in the Mind of God” (T-9.VIII.5:1-2). Yes, I am loved by God. This is who I am. I was created in Love. I am in the Mind of God, and I can allow myself to bless others and see the truth in them. In fact, I bless others by seeing Truth in them. I can choose to overlook their littleness and their grandiosity. I can choose to see them as the equal Sons of God that they are, loved by God as I am.

“Remember always that you cannot be anywhere except in the Mind of God. When you forget this, you will despair and you will attack” (T-9.VIII.5:3-4). Bingo! Bazinga! That’s exactly what we do! We forget; then we attack. We may be Course students, but we still do this. Once we forget the truth about ourselves, we become frightened, we despair, we attack. We project our guilt and self-hatred onto others. We criticize and find fault. These are the little ways we express our separation from each other and from God. They represent the thought of self-hate, which is our guilt over what we believe we did when we destroyed Heaven.

Reference: Text, Chapter 9, VIII. Grandeur vs. Grandiosity

An excerpt from our book, Change Your Mind! Talks on Living A Course in Miracles


Prayer of the Heart for 9/2/16

My point of view determines my experience. In knowing this, I choose the Mind of God.



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Snowflakes of Love’s Blessing

The loveliness of wonder as the snowflakes fall with each flake seeming individual and unique yet together they lay as one tucked in a blanket of comfort. Each has its sparkle and brilliance as the Light shines its radiance upon them. Some flakes end up in the street and become gray, ugly and forgotten. Others are marveled at in their virgin quality. Some are utilized playfully for fun and games. And some quietly be as they are. All coming from the sky from places unknown, falling as one.

Is it not the same as we? We seem to be these unique creatures yet we all come from the same Source. In the separation some are forgotten as hatred found a home in their hearts. We dismiss these as unloved and unwanted. Still others we raise high upon pedestals, worshipping them yet never to see the truth about them or ourselves. Others become those that we look upon with laughter as they help us to remember our innocence. So few then sit in silent stillness recognizing our inherent worth, our greatest Love and the Gift of Spirit.

Shall we see ourselves as different? Point out those differences? Or shall we see that we are all the same coming from the Mind of God? Why cast out those who do not live up to our standards? We know who those people are, the ones we ignore, relegate as unworthy of our love. If they are unworthy of our love then so are we and we are proving that time and time again. We have to see the brilliance that we all possess. Some of us mask it by what we have said or done but in all the little spark remains. There is always hope.

Stop for a moment and feel the Love of God within you. Hold your breath and let the world stop just a moment. In that moment you are safe and without fear. You are offered comfort and gentleness. You are blessed and appreciated. It is outside this moment that you feel otherwise. Stop again and feel the Love of God flowing through the world, flowing through your loved ones and now also the ones that you do not think of with love. All are deserving as you are deserving.

Let this world become a world in which forgiveness shines on everything, and peace offers a gentle light to everyone. Let quietness and peace shine through. Let the endless wells of joy spring forth from within.

At times we may not feel this at all. We may watch what is happening in the world or what is happening in our personal lives and feel afraid, lonely, disappointed, and sad. Yet we have a Friend, a Friend that will turn these feelings around for us. He will help us to allow God’s Love to permeate our mind and look past the fearful world and through the Eyes of Christ to see all with mercy and love.

It is up to us. We are to allow all those thoughts that hurt us to be given gladly to the Holy Spirit. We need no longer suffer. We need no longer see the separation, conflict, violence and pain. We can observe what is happening yet witness to Truth for ourselves and everyone around us. We can be the Voice of Peace in the middle of chaos.

As the snowflakes softly fall from the sky, bless each one and bless your brothers. Together we will realize the Kingdom. Together we will walk through the open door. Let God’s Love blaze a pathway there for all of us.

As the Who’s down in Whoville sang around the circle in knowing that the trappings of Christmas was not truly Christmas, sing with them that Christmas is about joining together, welcoming all near and far, no matter WHO they are.

May we remember our Oneness. May we remember God’s Love. May we remember the Light.


Rev. Deb Phelps

Originally posted December 19, 2012

The Ladder of Prayer – Pt. 2

Our enemy is the mirror of ourselves. Do we want to look in that mirror? We have all had someone we despise or cringe when someone mentions their name, however, they are our savior. The more energy we shove into the closet of hate the more it makes our heart bleed. Yet when we prayer for these so-called “enemies” in our lives, we are in fact praying for ourselves. We are affirming the truth in us both. This is on the level of truth of course.

This doesn’t mean we go running to the other person in a beautiful field of flowers while lilting music plays in the background. In form, certainly we can have preferences to who we have in our life. Yet, why do we have who we have and why do we not have our enemies? Have we forgotten to acknowledge that they are One with us?

Jesus tells us here that prayer is always for ourselves. When we pray, we are joined with the golden cord of God’s Love. It is holy and we are holy. Our so-called enemy is holy. Are there not times that we do not see our holiness and become an enemy to ourselves?

We learn here that prayer is the ladder to Heaven. We leave the world we know behind as we ascend each rung. We shift from praying for things of the world, to knowing we are in God’s World. We are His Gift and He to us. We have no needs in form as we only need to remember the song within us. That song is the playful melody that brings a bubble of joy rising to our mind. That is the prayer of Who we are.

This does not mean we cannot pray otherwise. We are merely  learning. We can know that we pray for illusions or forget that we are praying for illusions, in this at least we are reaching out to God to communicate with Him. Nothing is ever wrong in our communication with Him. Peace will come to us because in all of this, form or not, peace is our soul’s desire.

Rev. Deb

The Ladder of Prayer – (pghs. 5-8)

S-1.II.5. An enemy is the symbol of an imprisoned Christ. 2 And who could He be except yourself? 3 The prayer for enemies thus becomes a prayer for your own freedom. 4 Now it is no longer a contradiction in terms. 5 It has become a statement of the unity of Christ and a recognition of His sinlessness. 6 And now it has become holy, for it acknowledges the Son of God as he was created.

S-1.II.6. Let it never be forgotten that prayer at any level is always for yourself. 2 If you unite with anyone in prayer, you make him part of you. 3 The enemy is you, as is the Christ. 4 Before it can become holy, then, prayer becomes a choice. 5 You do not choose for another. 6 You can but choose for yourself. 7 Pray truly for your enemies, for herein lies your own salvation. 8 Forgive them for your sins, and you will be forgiven indeed.

S-1.II.7. Prayer is a ladder reaching up to Heaven. 2 At the top there is a transformation much like your own, for prayer is part of you. 3 The things of earth are left behind, all unremembered. 4 There is no asking, for there is no lack. 5 Identity in Christ is fully recognized as set forever, beyond all change and incorruptible. 6 The light no longer flickers, and will never go out. 7 Now, without needs of any kind, and clad forever in the pure sinlessness that is the gift of God to you, His Son, prayer can again become what it was meant to be. 8 For now it rises as a song of thanks to your Creator, sung without words, or thoughts, or vain desires, unneedful now of anything at all. 9 So it extends, as it was meant to do. 10 And for this giving God Himself gives thanks.

S-1.II.8. God is the goal of every prayer, giving it timelessness instead of end. 2 Nor has it a beginning, because the goal has never changed. 3 Prayer in its earlier forms is an illusion, because there is no need for a ladder to reach what one has never left. 4 Yet prayer is part of forgiveness as long as forgiveness, itself an illusion, remains unattained. 5 Prayer is tied up with learning until the goal of learning has been reached. 6 And then all things will be transformed together, and returned unblemished into the Mind of God. 7 Being beyond learning, this state cannot be described. 8 The stages necessary to its attainment, however, need to be understood, if peace is to be restored to God’s Son, who lives now with the illusion of death and the fear of God.


Let Christ be Welcomed

As we enter into Christmastime, let us remember that the holy Christ is born within us. We are surrounded by our Father’s Love. Let us realize the love that we are. Let us welcome all that is sacred and holy and know that we too are the very same. For so long we have denied Who we really are. We focus on our differences thus lending the wall of separation its means to be built higher and higher. Yet, let us see that we are One in the Mind of God. Let us all welcome the Christ as one within us.

In the Ch. 29. III. God’s Witnesses, Jesus shares with us that there is within us a tiny spark, a space of light created where God still shines. It is in each one of us. As we behold this light we will see God Himself. The darkness cannot hold us any longer. Instead make way for Love and let it rest where it is needed.

Stop for a moment and sense this Light within. This Light is Love, the Love of God. Let it grow and expand, and let it extend far beyond eternity. In this moment there is “peace on earth”. Let that peace permeate your mind and leave your fingertips. Remember your brothers and offer only “goodwill towards men”. Let the heart of kindness lead the way. We are not are identities, our personalities, our flaws and mistakes, we are something so much more. We are precious to our Father. We are the Son He loves. We cannot do anything to dim our Holy Light, our Holy Self. We are greeted with Open Arms in Heaven as we greet the Son in Truth.

Welcome Christ today within your Heart. Let the angels surround you and uplift you. Let their Heavenly Song remind you that you are not alone. Deep in your mind the holy Christ in you is waiting your acknowledgement as you. You are as God created you. This is freedom into peace and eternity.

I wish you peace this Christmas and Always,

Rev. Deb Phelps, Senior Minister of MiraclesOne

December 20th, 2014

If We Forget the Truth About Ourselves



Excerpt from Change Your Mind! Talks on Living A Course in Miracles

“Remember always that you cannot be anywhere except in the Mind of God. When you forget this, you will despair and you will attack” (T-9.VIII.5:3-4). Bingo! Bazinga! That’s exactly what we do! We forget; then we attack. We may be Course students, but we still do this. Once we forget the truth about ourselves, we become frightened, we despair, we attack. We project our guilt and self-hatred onto others. We criticize and find fault. These are the little ways we express our separation from each other and from God. They represent the thought of self-hate, which is our guilt over what we believe we did when we destroyed Heaven.

In a study group, for example, we may attack someone’s interpretation of a Course passage. Of course we’ll all have different takes on different passages. The problem comes when we think we’re right and the other person is wrong. We’re not seeing our basic equality. The Holy Spirit is present in every person’s mind. You might get different insights than I do, but that doesn’t make one of us wrong and the other right. We get different insights because the Holy Spirit is working with each of us individually. He’s working with you the way He needs to and with me the way He needs to. Each of us is where he or she needs to be. There’s no need for attack.

“The ego depends solely on your willingness to tolerate it. If you are willing to look upon your grandeur you cannot despair, and therefore you cannot want the ego” (T-9.VIII.6:1-2). Obviously, when we’re aware of the Love of God, why would we want anything less? I wouldn’t! I want what is True, which is our grandeur. My grandeur and your grandeur is God’s Answer to the lie of the ego, which is littleness and grandiosity. “Littleness and grandeur cannot coexist, nor is it possible for them to alternate. Littleness and grandiosity can and must alternate, since both are untrue and are therefore on the same level. Being the level of shift, it is experienced as shifting and extremes are its essential characteristic” (T-9.VIII.6:4-6). Extremes! Shifts! Well, we all know about that, don’t we? And not just those of us with teenage children! The ego is constantly shifting back and forth and going to extremes. First, I think I’m worse than everyone else. Then I think I’m better. I’m extremely superior or extremely inferior. Back and forth, back and forth. It’s exhausting! The ego’s world is about constant change and constant illusion to keep us off-balance and distracted.

“Truth and littleness are denials of each other because grandeur is truth. Truth does not vacillate; it is always true. When grandeur slips away from you, you have replaced it with something you have made. Perhaps it is the belief in littleness; perhaps it is the belief in grandiosity. Yet it must be insane because it is not true. Your grandeur will never deceive you, but your illusions always will. Illusions are deceptions. You cannot triumph, but you are exalted. And in your exalted state you seek others like you and rejoice with them” (T-9.VIII.7:1-9). There ain’t nothing but the Truth! We may be in that space of knowing our grandeur and the Love of God — say, in meditation — but afterwards, something else creeps in. We finish our meditation. Then we get an email or read Facebook or we meet someone and all of a sudden we begin to make comparisons. We think, “Oh, this person is doing so much more than me.” Or we think, “I’m doing so much better than that person.” That’s where the insanity slips in. Comparisons divide us from our brothers and keep us separate in our own special, insane space. But when we withdraw our belief in comparisons, we can experience that we really are one. In that exalted state, as Jesus says, we see others as ourselves in Truth.

“It is easy to distinguish grandeur from grandiosity, because love is returned and pride is not. Pride will not produce miracles, and will therefore deprive you of the true witnesses to your reality. Truth is not obscure nor hidden, but its obviousness to you lies in the joy you bring to its witnesses, who show it to you. They attest to your grandeur, but they cannot attest to pride because pride is not shared. God wants you to behold what He created because it is His joy” (T-9.VIII.8:1-5). So with our grandeur, there’s also humility. The Song of Prayer tells us: “Humility has come to teach you how to understand your glory as God’s Son …” (S-V.3:2). I am the Grandeur of God, yes, but I don’t have to shout it from the rooftops. Instead, I can quietly know that this is my Identity. I am as God created me.

As a result, we can do what we’re guided to do with calm confidence. We don’t have to blow our own horn. We do not have to be like other people nor expect others to be like us. At our ministry here at MiraclesOne, we don’t do that. We accept everyone as he or she is. The Holy Spirit is working with each of us perfectly. If I’m following Holy Spirit’s guidance for our ministry, I don’t need to worry about what other people or other teachers or organizations are doing. I just need to stay on the path that Holy Spirit has guided me to. I know there are a lot of other things that I could do to compete or compare or whatever, but no, always bring it back to: “Holy Spirit, what would You guide me to do? What would You have me do to be truly helpful to others?”

Jesus continues in this section: “Can your grandeur be arrogant when God Himself witnesses to it? And what can be real that has no witnesses? What good can come of it? And if no good can come of it the Holy Spirit cannot use it. What He cannot transform to the Will of God does not exist at all. Grandiosity is delusional, because it is used to replace your grandeur. Yet what God has created cannot be replaced. God is incomplete without you because His grandeur is total, and you cannot be missing from it” (T-9-VIII.9:1-8). Let’s face it. It’s high time we admitted that grandiosity is delusional. It’s an insane thought we made up to replace Truth. Basically, it’s us not wanting to be equal with our brothers. That’s why this whole crazy world came into being: The tiny, mad idea that I don’t want to be equal; I want to be special; I want to be seen; I want to be known; I want to be admired. It’s nothing but a “specialness mask” that hides our real Identity as Christ. It’s time to let go of that mask, that façade of grandiosity and littleness.

So we ask Holy Spirit, “Help me when these feelings come up and I don’t know what to do with myself. Help me when I’m feeling that I want to be better than someone or when I feel that I’m less than someone else. Help me when I’m comparing myself to others. Help me to stay true to You and to Your Will for me.” To that end, put blinders on and stay focused on Holy Spirit and not on what others are doing. Ask Holy Spirit to tell you if He wants you to help someone or if He wants you to say something or do something. Holy Spirit will always communicate what He wants you to do from the position of the Truth about Who you are. Then we can share that Truth and see it in others as well.



Are you ready to learn more about what to do when you forget the Truth of Who you are? See our book, Change Your Mind! Talks on Living A Course in Miracles.

The entries in this volume of Change Your Mind! are taken from Revs. Deb and Paul Phelps’ weekly Practical Miracles Messages that are given each Sunday at MiraclesOne in Madison, Wisconsin. Each Message is recorded for video and audio but many people have been requesting that we make them available in print form. The Change Your Mind!series is our response to that request.

Volume 1 – Can You Hear Me Now? * Grandeur vs. Grandiosity * The Only Teacher * Forgiving Yourself * What, Me Angry? * Off the Beaten Path * Only Equals are at Peace * Attack and Defense * Happy Laughter * Healthy Body or Healed Mind?

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