A Practice: I am Never Upset for the Reason I Think

We have been afraid of love. That’s what it comes down to. We’ve been so fearful of love in our minds. We talk about love. We want to have love. We desire love. We seek for love, yet if we allow that love in, we’re so terrified. The ego says, “No way!” The ego is terrified of it. It doesn’t want us to seek it. Why? Because it would dissolve into nothingness if that were so. So we continue to see the problem as something outside of us instead of inside.  

Use a journal or notebook.  
Sit quietly for a few minutes. Close your eyes.  Take a few deep breaths.

Say to yourself: “I am never upset for the reason I think.”

Very quietly now, write that down in your journal. “I am never upset for the reason I think.”  

Jesus tells us that we’re really upset over nothing. We think the problem is real, but what we’re upset about is over nothing.  
Put that in your own words. “I think my problem is real, but Jesus tells me I am upset over nothing.” Whatever way you want to word that for yourself. You’re affirming that for yourself.  
Take a look at what those unforgivenesses are, what those grievances or upsets are. Write those down.  
It could be something like: “I think I’m upset because I have failed myself and others. I think I’m upset because and believe that I’m alone. I think I’m upset because others told false stories about me.”  
Just keep writing. Maybe do about five to seven sentences. Whenever you are done with those, just set the pen down.  
Take time to do this, dear reader, as it is most beneficial to you if you do the practical application. 

Close your eyes again. Take a few more deep breaths. Let them be cleansing breaths.  
Time to make your intention to change these problem thoughts, these unforgiveness thoughts that you have.

“Jesus or Holy Spirit, look on these problems with me, these unforgivenesses, these judgments, and these grievances. Look on them with me. Above all else, I want to see, see differently. I know when I look with You, I will be recognizing the ego strategy for my own demise.”  

Pick up that pen again. Go through the beliefs that you have just written. I want you to add something to them. Rewrite the sentence.

For example: “I think and believe I am alone… cannot take away my peace.” So you want to add: “…Cannot take away my peace” to the end of whatever it is that you wrote.  
For example: The belief that I have failed myself and others… cannot take away my peace.  
Whatever the belief is that you had, the upset, the grievance, the judgment, the unforgiveness, add to it: …cannot take away my peace. This belief cannot take away my peace.  
Once again, dear reader, open up to doing this healing work in your journal.  

None of these beliefs can take away your peace. You have decided that they can. Now we’re in the process of deciding otherwise. In truth, we are only upset about nothing. Nada, zero, zilch. We’re upset about something that is not real. We are upset over an illusion. This keeps me separated from God.  

Now say to yourself: I now accept the atonement for myself. 

Deep breaths. Be OK wherever you are with this process too. Just allow yourself to relax for a few more moments. Look at all this with a still and open mind. Jesus and Holy Spirit is looking with you, to see past all the perceived unforgivenesses and grievances and judgments. He’s looking with you.  

Join with me in this prayer: 
My real problem, my real upset is that I believe I’m separated from God. I’ve been afraid of love. Now I look at these grievances without judgment. I see their nothingness. No more do they have the sting that they had before. I allow love to fill my heart and fill my mind. Amen and amen. 

Very gently, bring yourself back to the room you are in.

Excerpted from Rev. Deb’s book “The Holy Place of Forgiveness”


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